Growing up, we all have friends. Most of them are for a season. We hang out for a while then slowly find ourselves drifting apart and never really speak again. Sometimes they cross our minds, and we hope they’re doing well.
We are still friends with them on social media, and we see their triumphs from afar. Sometimes, we see their heartache if they chose to post about it. But we never speak to them. Because it would be weird if we messaged them and just checked in, right? But we used to be friends, best friends even. So checking in with an old friend shouldn’t be weird.
Friends are important in life. It means that someone sees you and they think you are pretty cool. They were there when you struggled through a break up, or an argument, or just a plain ole bad day. Sometimes they even saw you through a horrible event in your life, and stuck around. But they were also there on your best days. Those friends are the ones worth keeping.
A true friend is the kind that you can tell the gods honest truth to and they won’t shut you out. They may argue with you or disagree but they won’t shut you out for showing true concern and being honest about it. They’ll hear what you have to say and they may not agree with you, but they’ll think about it or take it with a grain of salt. It can be hard to hear something you don’t like, but that doesn’t mean that person is against you. They are just looking out for you.
Recently, I have tried to be as a honest as possible with those that I care for. Some have taken what I had to say to heart and others have walked me through how they are going to deal with the difficult times when they come. Because you see, if you can’t be honest and raw with the ones that you care about. What else is there? Some people take honesty hard. Others appreciate it and love you for it.
My very best friend in whole world is going through a major life change. When she was deciding to make the change, I expressed my concerns and everything that came with it. I am a very plan oriented person so when she said she was thinking about making this change so soon, I was thrown. I was worried for her and all of the things that came with this change. But she confidentially said she could do it. So I hesitantly said I will be behind her every step if she decides to go through with it.
It’s not my life, but she deserves the best and it is okay to show concern or worry. Especially because I care so deeply and she is literally the sister I never had (no hard feelings mom). It is okay to take a step back and reflect. If they need your help to problem solve, be that for them. But do not ever be afraid to be honest with them. Unless it is to say “I told you so”. Do not ever say that!
Sometimes honesty is the best thing in times of hardship. The friends that understand, will stay and not hold it against you.
