Recently, my husband said something kind of profound. Reflecting on his recent experiences, he said, “it will never be yesterday.” Followed by “you should use that for your blog.” But it got me thinking. We spend so much time dwelling on the past, and on things that we cannot control. That we lose out on what is right in front of us. Waiting for us see it and make the effort.
Since having Penelope, I have found myself trying to be as present as possible. Because I don’t want to miss a thing. But between housework, my own personal care, and taking care of everything in between. Staying present becomes a task of its own. It will never be yesterday simply means, you cannot get yesterday back.
Continuing to dwell on the past, getting down on yourself because of something someone said to you, or just simply not being mentally there. We struggle day to day with the what ifs of yesterday and things we could have done differently so certain things didn’t happen. But the truth is, it doesn’t matter. If someone hurt you, by all means do what you need to do. Cry, scream, yell into the sky. But don’t carry it with you every day.
That pain and that hurt, it can be healed. But the days and months or even years lost because of it, you can’t get those back. Don’t let someone make you feel bad for something you said or did. If you believe in it, and they trust you and are there for you. They’ll accept it, whatever it may be. Dwelling on the past doesn’t make it go away or change anything that happened. The only thing it does, is help you reflect.
It helps you see what you could do differently next time when something like that arises. Every day you wake up, is a gift. Surround yourself with those that love you and your family. The other nonsense or background noise in your life, it doesn’t matter. Of course you will think about it, and you may struggle with it. But don’t, for a second, let you think you are not worthy or loved because of it.
Having a baby helps you see life in a new lense. It breaks you down and builds you back up into a stronger no nonsense person. You begin to not care what others think of you. It helps you focus on the people and things that really matter to you. So if you know in your heart and soul, you gave it your best. That is all you can do.
“It will never be yesterday” is merely a saying my husband made up, but it is something to live by. Because you just can’t get back the things you have missed and dwelling on them makes it more painful. So my message to you, my readers. Whom ever you may be, whatever you may be going through. Don’t let the pain of yesterday, bring you down today. God gives you the gift of a fresh start every day, and it is your choice how you use it.
